Couples Discovery

The goal of this course is to understand how we can build a creatively empowered and fully expressed conscious partnership.

Inner Seeing II

Inner Seeing II is being offered as an in-person class in our classroom, located at 2945 Center Green Ct., Boulder, Colorado, 80301, as well as by webinar worldwide. There are 12 class meetings, all on Monday evenings, August 27 through November 12, from 6pm to 9pm U.S. Mountain Time.

Facilitators are Larry Byram, Sandy Jaquith, Tom Faggiano

Prerequisites: Creative Uniqueness and Recognizing Creativity or permission of instructor.

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Introduction To Couples Discovery (Free Intro)

A free intro presentation describing our couples program.

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners

Enlightened Dating Summary

Changing our selection criteria for partners takes an understanding of what we are seeking. We need to learn how to be ourselves as Creative Being so we can attract partners who would naturally match us. This requires reorienting ourselves to what attracts us. We also need to stand up for ourselves so others can see us fully. Otherwise, we get caught in unconscious parental patterns or opposite attraction partners where Co-Dependence rules. This program, when followed, makes us conscious of when we are sabotaging ourselves by choosing partners who cannot go the distance. This twelve part series is meant to be a total program, yet some individuals feel they may only need certain parts of it. In our experience, the first six classes help us to become aware of our choices so we can shift beyond entanglement options.

Class Note: This is the first time everyone will have to pay in advance through PayPal. If attendees only register for the first class, and then want to do the full series, they will have to pay the full series price without a discount. This is due to new administration requirements. On the upside, by purchasing the whole series, we are providing Mini Creative Assessments for your parents and up to 3 past partners (a $145 value). Thank you for understanding our desire to have an effective enrollment process.

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 12 :: Optimizing Online Dating Services

There are many obstacles to using online dating services. People’s profiles can be fishing expeditions by married individuals looking for a hookup. Their pictures may be 20 years old, if we are lucky. The very medium of interacting through a computer tends to attract more Distant or disengaged people. Finally, there are the many misguided attempts to determine compatibility through a series of questions. Despite these obstacles, online dating provides a focused group of individuals who believe they are capable of attracting a partner. Higher Alignment’s assessment tools provide a way to cut through these obstacles to identify the top candidates in your locale. This requires good pictures and simple qualification statements (such as, are they non-smokers?), and some sort of background check.

While it is more difficult to use online dating services (for all the above reasons), there are also opportunities to practice and explore possibilities with people who may be more similar to you. It requires preparing a profile, selecting photos, answering a lot of questions and being willing to monitor the process on a regular basis. Some people find this to be too tedious. For them, we need to work on putting them in places (locations, groups, activities, etc.) where they would most likely meet the people who are similar to them. These individuals will need more ability to see compatibility differences. They will also want to use their network of friends for people who might match the qualities they seek. This is why, upon reflection, some of the dating sites are a bit more effective than others. What Higher Alignment can do is go through the pictures of your choosing and point out the people who are your Primary Creative Expression, could be sexually compatible and who are defensively similar. Individuals, such as Larry, can search through and assess up to 800 pictures per hour. In these situations, we usually find 10 or more suitable matches. This still requires people to follow up these individuals and inspire them to respond.

The benefit of online dating is that our preferences can be taken into account. This means we can sort people by age, if they smoke, their marital status, social activities and even athletic interests (if any). Since there are at least 60 million individuals on dating sites at any given time, there are many opportunities for connection. This allows a greater degree of targeting that can lead to finding appropriate partners. Higher Alignment sees this process as a way to practice showing up an being ourselves. It encourages us to be confident and to not compromise ourselves. It focuses us on the larger picture so we can learn how a person might work with us, even if they do not look like they would fit our preconceived notions. We still stand by the concept that it is us taking ownership of our creativity that makes us visible and attractive to the best partner candidates. It is time to be the driving energy behind what will fulfill us.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, November 10th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

Recognizing Defenses :: Class 2: Recognizing Dynamic Defense Style

Dynamic Defense Styles are the result of denying our feminine and emphasizing our masculine.We emphasize Mastery, Time and Task centered management and goal-centric activities. We act outwardly strong and certain, even when we are not. We are identified by a perimeter Defense Style, with hidden emotional vulnerabilities. We are strong in objective, experiential modalities, such as Sensations and Thoughts. We use our intellectual framework to enhance Security. We demonstrate strong autonomy and self esteem while seeking intimacy and self respect. Dynamic people are primarily motivated by being seen getting the job done. Being acknowledged is everything. Feelings and Emotions are controlled so they do not get out of control. Power is generated by being able to impose their thoughts on others. They use order and structure to justify taking positions that elevate them over others. They break down each problem so it can be appreciated and solved.

As Dynamic individuals, we admire strength, despise weakness and will fight (when challenged) to prove ourselves. We validate our Truth intellectually by getting people to agree with our assumptions. Since defenses are partial truths, we are highly susceptible to Illusions. Sometimes, we get caught up in Intensity, because we cannot distinguish our own Truth. This is why we seek Wisdom in others and try to learn more about circumstances from them. The biggest illusion we confront is that information is power. When we do not consider all the possibilities, we are susceptible to snap judgments that end up backfiring. Our biggest fear is that we are not loved. To resolve this, we invest in activities and intellectual support to convince others we are behind them.

Dynamic individuals seek truth but have difficulty being complete with it. Our time-centeredness drives us into competitive situations, where we always measure our performance vs. others’. We believe that a good offense is the best defense and therefore seek to throw others off balance so we will have an advantage. We rarely trust our intuition, even if we have developed it as part of our creative expression. It is not recommended to confront or make fun of the truth of a Dynamic individual. It will not end well! Through the review of hundreds of pictures, we explore the various physical and energetic characteristics that indicate a Dynamic Defense Style,. Our objective is to offer enough examples so we will be able to see these characteristics in life. The class also comes with all presentations (in PDF format) and video recordings.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Thursday, July 19, 2018, 6-9pm MT

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)