Finding Conscious & Complete Partners

Enlightened Dating Summary

Changing our selection criteria for partners takes an understanding of what we are seeking. We need to learn how to be ourselves as Creative Being so we can attract partners who would naturally match us. This requires reorienting ourselves to what attracts us. We also need to stand up for ourselves so others can see us fully. Otherwise, we get caught in unconscious parental patterns or opposite attraction partners where Co-Dependence rules. This program, when followed, makes us conscious of when we are sabotaging ourselves by choosing partners who cannot go the distance. This twelve part series is meant to be a total program, yet some individuals feel they may only need certain parts of it. In our experience, the first six classes help us to become aware of our choices so we can shift beyond entanglement options.

Class Note: This is the first time everyone will have to pay in advance through PayPal. If attendees only register for the first class, and then want to do the full series, they will have to pay the full series price without a discount. This is due to new administration requirements. On the upside, by purchasing the whole series, we are providing Mini Creative Assessments for your parents and up to 3 past partners (a $145 value). Thank you for understanding our desire to have an effective enrollment process.

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Finding Conscious & Complete Partners :: Complete Class Series

Enlightened Dating Summary

Changing our selection criteria for partners takes an understanding of what we are seeking. We need to learn how to be ourselves as Creative Being so we can attract partners who would naturally match us. This requires reorienting ourselves to what attracts us. We also need to stand up for ourselves so others can see us fully. Otherwise, we get caught in unconscious parental patterns or opposite attraction partners where Co-Dependence rules. This program, when followed, makes us conscious of when we are sabotaging ourselves by choosing partners who cannot go the distance. This twelve part series is meant to be a total program, yet some individuals feel they may only need certain parts of it. In our experience, the first six classes help us to become aware of our choices so we can shift beyond entanglement options.

Success in finding the right partner requires a reorientation of our Attractions, recognition of the Compatibility Factors that matter to us and the ability to speak our truth without compromise. Instead of finding people who will adapt to us, we want to find those who are similar to us (so we do not have to explain ourselves). We are also looking for people who can be Co-Creative partners. With these individuals, because we love ourselves, it is not difficult to love them. Loving our Creative Nature is also a way to build self respect, self esteem and the desire for equal partnership. What if we could develop great love in nine months or less? What if we could experience creative chemistry, intellectual stimulation and sexual chemistry together? Are we willing to explore these possibilities?

Each five-hour class builds the case for changing the way we choose partners. We do processes to discover how best to proceed and question the assumptions that cause us to fail. During this exploration, we discover the principles for conscious and complete relationships. If you are repulsed by the idea of another Co-Dependent relationship, you have come to the right place! The classes are spaced to give time to explore our Creative Nature and to practice some of these steps. There will be an online support group for those who sign up for the complete course. There is also a substantial discount when you purchase the full series.

Class Note: This is the first time everyone will have to pay in advance through PayPal. If attendees only register for the first class, and then want to do the full series, they will have to pay the full series price without a discount. This is due to new administration requirements. On the upside, by purchasing the whole series, we are providing Mini Creative Assessments for your parents and up to 3 past partners (a $145 value). Thank you for understanding our desire to have an effective enrollment process.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

All classes meet 12pm to 5pm, US Mountain Time with no lunch break
Class 1: Conscious, Complete Love: Saturday, June 9th 2018
Class 2: Healthy Choices: Saturday, June 23rd 2018
Class 3: Compromised, Co-Dependent Relationships: Saturday, June 30th 2018
Class 4: Shifting Attractive Polarities: Saturday, July 14th 2018
Class 5: Attractive Transformation: Saturday, July 28th 2018
Class 6: Recognizing Motives: Saturday, August 11th 2018
Class 7: Showing Up — Engagement Opportunities: Saturday, August 25th 2018
Class 8: Building Relationship Skills: Saturday, September 8th, 2018
Class 9: Discovering What Works: Saturday, September 22nd, 2018
Class 10: Utilizing Common Lessons: Saturday, October 13th, 2018
Class 11: Revealing What Is Important: Saturday, October 27th, 2018
Class 12: Optimizing Online Dating Services: Saturday, November 10th, 2018
$497.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 2 :: Healthy Choices
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 2 :: Healthy Choices
In this class we examine how our past relationships were either healthy or not. We discuss parental patterns, opposite Attractions and how our partners make us feel important. We are also looking for the type of connection that made us feel seen in the past. When we compare parental patterns to past relationships, it becomes obvious that many of our choices were attempts on our part to complete the past. Others, such as opposite attractions, are based on not knowing who we are and needing more input about what does not work with us. Finally, the more out of balance we are between our relative self important and others’, the more insecure we are in the choices we are making.

This class requires each participant to submit pictures of their parents and pictures of two or three significant relationships. This will allow us to deconstruct what is not working from what did work in the past. We provide a link (when you register) for submitting your photos digitally. We provide a mini-profile for each individual you submit. This is a $145 value per participant! We only do this for individuals who do the full series. Individual class participants pay $29 for each mini-profile. (Another incentive to do the full series!) The real reason we are doing this is to confront where we are at, in terms of of Fear, Personality Desire and Self Importance with potential partners. Each pattern reflects a certain motivation and lesson we are seeking to learn. By dealing with our lessons, we uplift our ability to attract better partners.

One of our aspirations is to understand why we repeat certain choices in relationships. This class reveals where we get stuck and what we need to do to get unstuck. We also encourage reading about our Primary Expression and Defense Style in preparation for the next class. Otherwise, we may be overwhelmed by the sheer impact of our discoveries. We also talk about the benefits of choosing individuals with the same Compatibility Factors, because they see us and can respond with minimal effort. Rather than needing to prove ourselves in relationships, it would be best to be in a relationship where we do not need to convince our partners that we are the one. This approach borders on Seduction, which guarantees we will not be able to grow and be ourselves with these partners.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, June 23rd 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 3 :: Compromised, Co-Dependent Relationships
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 3 :: Compromised, Co-Dependent Relationships
There are three indicators that we are choosing a compromised or co-dependent relationship. If we feel Excited, Intense or Anxious, or a combination thereof, we can guarantee we are compromising ourselves to earn their goodwill. Some of us get caught up in elaborate role-playing or over-the-top Romantic Mythologies that indicate a clash of cultural or compatibility differences. Each difference also becomes the basis of our defensive Distortions, which means we cannot accurately see our partners. Excitement reflects imbalances between Sensations and Feelings, which minimizes Aliveness and the appreciation of Beauty. Intensity reflects an imbalance between Emotions and Thoughts, which minimizes Wisdom and the ability to speak our Truth. Anxiety reflects imbalances between our Feeling and Emotions, and our bodies and minds, which minimizes Awareness, the experience of Love and Passion.

If we cannot go beyond defining relationships in terms of our needs, we are effectively stuck looking for the best partner based on what we are willing to tolerate. Some of us are driven by sexuality, because we have difficulty anchoring ourselves in our bodies. When we do not feel beautiful internally and do not appreciate our creative Beauty, we need to look for it outside ourselves. The expression of pleasure becomes a currency of exchange that we can use to measure our sexual worth. Others are driven by the need for power, which we conflate with information. Ironically, this diminishes our Wisdom and we end up being trapped in our thinking. The more we try to assert ourselves, the more we push others away that are able to think for themselves. Finally, we are driven to prove our Self Importance when we are insecure. The more we believe we deserve a good partner, but are not willing to change ourselves to engage new possibilities, the less successful we are. Pride can get in the way of fantastic relationship possibilities, because they do not fit our idea of success.

In compromised, Co-Dependent relationships, there is only boredom, competition and envy. The structure of these relationships minimizes embodied experiences and the expressions of Life, Light and Love. As long as we operate with holes in our relationships, there is no way to contain any positive feedback and flow. This is why Co-Dependent relationships are incredibly draining. Some would say, Co-Dependence is the great sucking sound that crushes creative possibilities in relationships. This course clarifies where we may be compromising ourselves, and hence, our relationships. It makes clear the bad news of many of our relationship experiences. Hopefully, the class will stimulate the participant to come out and play at a larger level. We need to be able to see how we actively participated in our past relationship failures.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, June 30th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 4 :: Shifting Attractive Polarities
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 4 :: Shifting Attractive Polarities
The sources of Co-Creative relationships are Aliveness, Wisdom and Awareness. This is the antithesis of Co-Dependent relationships, where Excitement, Intensity and Anxiety predominate. The two major Compatibility Factors that promote Co-Creativity, Autonomy, Intimacy and Growth are our Defense Style (in the process of healing) and our Primary Creative Expression (as we become more actualized). These are the factors we believe have the biggest impact in making great relationship choices. If we choose a partner that shares the same factors and levels of healing, it promotes a stronger acceptance, Trust and Unity between them. This class helps to drill down into and get experiences about why we can relax when these two factors are the same.

On a defensive level, choosing someone with the same patterns initially feels uncomfortable. This is because we have not yet accepted our own Being on a larger level. Not only does our Defense minimize our creativity, it also makes us question why being with this person would be a smart idea. The answer is that until we can be with others who are like us, we are not accepting our own wholeness. When we can be seen and accepted by others like ourselves, we naturally strengthen rather than drain each other. Co-Dependent patterns minimize growth because no one wants to be at the effect of their partner. What this ignores is that on a larger level we are assigning ourselves smaller roles in our interactions. Until we can embrace both our positive and negative sides and accept our wholeness, we cannot be attracted to people who are like us. When we make this shift, we open up a grand new world. All defensive relationships become open to us when we are no longer defensive.

Being able to see creative individuals (as we are) is the next step in this process. This is why we offer Recognizing Visionaries, Inventors, Compassionates, Investigators and Storyteller courses. These courses help each individual see themselves in others (creatively). Otherwise, our imprinting and lack of self affirmation about our creativity, will make it very hard to see the best people for us. It is important to know that each Creative Expression has a range of behaviors, from positive to negative, as each grows in its actualization. This means that while it is critical to see a Primary Expression that matches our own, we will be best me by those who share our same actualization level. There are seven levels for each actualization. They correspond, to a degree, with WorldView, but are more focused on individuals gifts than general WorldView lessons. WorldView congruence would therefore earn bonus points when choosing business or romantic partners.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, July 14th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 5 :: Attractive Transformation
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 5 :: Attractive Transformation
Making heartfelt choices requires seeing ourselves as autonomous, capable and Co-Creative. We need to cross over the threshold where we are no longer blinded by our personality needs. This requires detaching from our Safety, Security and Self-Importance needs. These needs drive our Instinctive, Intellectual and idealized Attractions. Making this transition into accepting our Intuitive, Unified Creative Nature requires letting go of our identification with our Defenses and appreciating who we are. The more we can step into balanced interactions with others and not lose ourselves in their issues or needs, the more supportive we can be. This is because, whenever someone operates from their whole, it encourages others to respond in a more complete manner. This, of course, is against all of our personality training. It requires ignoring former Attractive impulses that do not work.

Conscious Attractions can be broken down into Cellular Affinity (where we know how to relax with our partners), Vibratory Response (where we learn how to merge without losing ourselves) and Vibratory Expansion (where we learn to hold ground together so our creative projects can emerge). Each Attraction creates an opportunity for bonding with others on physical, intellectual and intuitive levels, respectively. This promotes Spacious Presence, Pregnant Duration and Skillful Means, which are the foundations for Common Neutral Ground. By becoming an independent and creative agent using these tools, it opens up our ability to learn the skills of Universal Dominion, Mutual Accomplishment and Conscious Participation. This helps others (who are conscious) to see and appreciate us for who we are.

Attractive Transformation helps us to let go of all the previous ways we justified our circumstances. Instead of fixating on Attachments, Positions and Projections, we realize that we need to define ourselves in our own terms and let others meet us as they are able. We discover that many of our dating problems were because we were fixating on the past and trying to protect ourselves from our past mistakes. When we take ownership of who we are, we realize it is our own lack of preparedness that has prevented our ability to choose conscious partners. We need to be the change we seek! We also come to understand that the Universe has always been offering possibilities for companionship, but we have been too unconscious to see or acknowledge these opportunities.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, July 28th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 6 :: Recognizing Motives
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 6 :: Recognizing Motives
Sustainable, conscious relationships require common Motives. Motives are impulses that operate on Instinctive, Intellectual, Idealized and Intuitive levels. Instinctive Motives are Greed, Lust and Arrogance. The Intellectual Motives are Personal Dominion, Self Centered Activity and Personal Achievement. Idealized Motives are Idealized Trust, Co-Creativity and Unity. The Intuitive Motives are Universal Dominion, Conscious Participation and Mutual Accomplishment. Each of the Twelve Motives provides a structure for understanding the degree others can meet us. If we are holding on and requiring others to meet us in higher Motives, it will be difficult, if not impossible, for others to step up to this option, particularly if we do not first meet them were they are.

Motives also reveal the degree of comfort someone has in sharing their masculine, feminine or combined nature. In dating situations with a difference in Motives, there is less trust and opportunity. Someone who is fluid in all the Motives can easily recognize the capacity (or lack) and engagement level of others. If we want to prevent being surprised by our relationships, we need to be able to recognize lower level Motives (so we do not get blindsided by mismatched Motives). This is particularly true, because Seducers rely on Instinctive and Intellectual Motives to justify their interest and subsequent activities. In this class we provide examples of how Motives, with Compatibility Factors, can be the best indicators of long-term affinity.

In Universal Dominion, we hold space for the Truth of others and accept it as their Truth. We do not need to agree with them to maintain the relationship. In Mutual Accomplishment, we seek opportunities for creative momentum, yet also allow Stillness, Solitude and Silence to permeate our process. In Conscious Participation, we recognize that we need to show up 100% of the time. If we do not, can others really count on us? Instead of demanding things from our partners, we request what could work for us, but are prepared to solve the problem ourselves. Nor do we demand things from others, as we realize we are highly skilled in finding ways to bridge Differences consciously. Our starting assumption is always to better prepare ourselves so we have the greatest odds for success.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, August 11th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 7 :: Showing Up — Engagement Opportunities
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 7 :: Showing Up — Engagement Opportunities
We discovered in Enlightened Dating that individuals either overdo or underdo their capacity to engage others appropriately. We overdo and exhaust potential partners when we cannot relax or connect to our bodies and ourselves. This overdoing can be the result of being rejected in the past or being abandoned. We need to address these issues so we can show up naturally. We underdo and hide out when we do not respond to the overtures of others. This underdoing is the result of having hollowed-out relationships where introspection and self-revelation are denied and condition us. When we cannot be present with our Feelings (and connected to our Sensations) or Emotions (connected to our Thoughts and Truth), overdoing and underdoing deregulate the relationship pace. Sometimes the underdoer’s are attraction to the overdoer’s and vice versa. This creates a subtle sense of competition and self-scoring that sabotages relationship connections.

The more we fall into fixed dating styles or Pretenses, the more our Expectations get challenged. The problem is that we do not investigate the quality of our connection, because the pacing of it is erratic and out of sync with our natural flow. What we need to learn is how to hold space in a separate relationship space independent of our personal space. This keeps us from merging or getting irritated when our partner does not respond to us. Showing up also requires being curious about what our partners are sharing. Any judgments or attitudes will minimize our engagement and understanding. These judgments may also create reactions where we fall into the trap of trying to fix our partners. This is an ugly pleasure (schadenfreude) because it gives us the sense we are contributing; yet in reality, we are not. Pretenses are all attempts to convince others we can help them, when in fact, we only do so when we need to.

Until we can be present to ourselves, it is hard to include others in an open and undefined space. This is what a Common Neutral Ground offers. By showing up and being attentive, we maximize our ability to ask questions and put together a picture of what is possible together. We need to be careful to not make snap judgments. If we are investing in learning about our partners, they will respond by providing complete answers that allow us to build trust in the relationship. By providing more information about us, they can learn who we really are. This can be extremely useful, even if they do not turn out to be the partners we are ultimately seeking. When they know us, we may be able to enroll them in sending people our way that could be a match. Our goal in showing up is to make ourselves better known so the Universe can find and send us the right people.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, August 25th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 8 :: Building Relationship Skills
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 8 :: Building Relationship Skills
There are four primary relationship Skills that are critical to long-term relationships. They are Growth, Autonomy, Intimacy and Co-Creativity. Co-Creativity is only possible when we have developed the previous three. In fact, the sequence is one where each step requires the previous to be embodied. This means to develop Autonomy we have to choose our growth. To have Intimacy, we need to take risks and be vulnerable, which means knowing who we are. Co-Creativity itself requires the interaction of Life, Light and Love energies that we often simply into Aliveness, Wisdom and Awareness. There are many problems that arise when we cannot engage others due to a lack of partner skills. For example, if our partner cannot tell us their Truth, their lack of Autonomy minimizes our ability to be intimate with them, making Co-Creativity impossible.

Conditional forms of love minimize our relationship skills. Protective Love is the main reason why people withhold their truth. Directive Love eliminates any true intimacy. Quid Pro Quo Love creates a false sense of equality, which compromises any attempts at creativity. When we build relationship skills it is because we have aligned Motives and can trust our partners. Many attempts at trying to fix relationships are actually destructive. Therefore, it is critical for partners to have an understanding of how they can grow and develop together. Until we can establish this trust we will not operate as a team with a larger central purpose. This is why we need to prepare by organizing ourselves in terms of something larger than us, something our partner(s) can count on us to be committed to.

What is the focus and availability of the partners we are considering? How have they organized themselves to make a difference in the world? Who are their friends and business associates? Are their constituents yours too? If there is a common Skills, Attractions and Motives base, our friends will be their friends and we can mix the two. If our friends cannot work together, it indicates differences that outshine their similarities. The more similarities we have with our partners, the easier it is to be Transpersonal with them. It is also easier for our friends to partner with their friends. This reveals a common support system that dramatically increases the likelihood of a long-term partnership.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, September 8th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 9 :: Discovering What Works
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 9 :: Discovering What Works
As we explore each relationship we learn to validate our preferences so we understand what irritates us and what works for us. Starting with the premise of our Creative Nature, we are naturally attracted to individuals who are similar. Since we have grown up in compromised relationships, we frequently become enamored by the idea of overcoming differences as a way to prove ourselves to our partners. This approach minimizes our creative flow and maximizes our separateness. Making conscious choices about relationships requires experiencing both sides of the spectrum, from many commonalities to many differences. Some individuals prefer a mixture of the two, because it keeps them alert. The real question is, what resources do I have to deal with these patterns over time?

When a new person shows up and they remind us of a positive association, how will this association fare over time? Few of us have answers for these questions. It takes experimenting with two or three conscious relationships before we know what works for us. Otherwise, we fall into unconscious parental, opposition or power frameworks of choice. Since we suggest that you use two major Compatibility Factors (Primary Creative Expression and our Defense style) as the starting points for sorting out our best partner opportunities, we still need to validate other options to make sure they are viable choices. We recommend avoiding Co-Dependent or oppositional choices. We suggest that certain parental imprints will become irritating over time.

The real impact of these issues is determined by how we hold them in ourselves. Some differences take a lot of energy to manage, while others may not. In this course, we will talk about the benefits of common Pacing, Communication Process and Decision Making Approach. Sometimes, finding a partner with a similar parental pattern means we understand them better than our own pattern. It takes experimentation and observation to make these choices conscious. We believe it is likely that you will have a better sense of this balance within seven months. The problem is that we do not speak our Truth about the impact of our differences, believing they will magically go away. This is a mistake! The cost of this path is we get in relationships that last two years or less. Our recommendation is to speak openly about your differences and accept personal responsibility that it is only our reaction, not our partner’s, that is the cause. Our partners are not doing it ‘to us,’ because we are responsible for our internal response. If we cannot change this response, we need to recognize it as our issue. Our objective needs to be to accept our partner completely as they are.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, September 22nd 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 10 :: Utilizing Common Lessons
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 10 :: Utilizing Common Lessons
When we have common Motives and Skills, our life lessons become more obvious. This can become a major opportunity to accelerate our mutual development, because being with a partner who sees us fully reminds us of our gifts and grace. Business or romantic partners also help us to make the connection between personal endeavors and partnership explorations. Having a work-life balance is critical to maintaining our sense of self. Without Personal Autonomy, we would not be able to take risks in service of larger possibilities. While relationships can be highly stimulating, we also need to respect our personal pacing. Like breathing, there are cycles of inspiration and exhalation, where individuals learn to take time for themselves so they have insights to bring back to the relationship.

One final way we validate a great relationship is our ability to relax together. While many idealize and do infantile behaviors as a way of justifying relaxation, it is Stillness, Silence and Solitude, separately and together, that makes relaxation a goal in itself. The goal, of course, is regeneration. Without regeneration, cyclic behaviors would have no purpose. It is also how we can clear out imbalances in our experiential modalities of Sensations, Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts. Whenever we become attached, positional or overwhelmed on any of the four levels, it creates blockages where we act out through Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization patterns. the result is that we cannot be present to each other because we have distanced ourselves from our partners. When these patterns become a defensive protection system, our separativeness is complete. We are no longer available to each other or anyone else.

Understanding how our partners respond to life, and what we can do to benefit them, requires self reflection. We need to be able to separate our own experience from theirs so we can see how to best support them. We need to learn to not try to fix our partners, but instead be responsive, playful and even paradoxical in our interactions. Self-understanding is the best way to reach others in their own pain. The more we can be empathic, without losing ourselves, the more compassion we will demonstrate. It is also critical not to push or attempt to process our partners so they fix themselves. They need to have their own motivation and desire to engage, or nothing will move or grow. In this class, we will cover the Twelve Lessons of Growth in relationships. When we find alignment in our lessons and how we interact together in service of these lessons, we have found a great partner!

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, October 13th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 11 :: Revealing What Is Important
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 11 :: Revealing What Is Important
Being real is the way conscious individuals attract attention. The more we are comfortable expressing both the good and the bad, the more our partners will come to trust us. One of the common mistakes people make is not telling the whole story or misrepresenting a circumstance, then having it emerge in an unplanned way. Another mistake is to amplify our image by trying to impress others. This comes off as insincere, then later becomes a repulsion when it become publicly known as untrue. The Truth needs no embellishment. Anyone who believes it does is operating unconsciously in their personality programming. Since we are looking for conscious individuals who would automatically suspect flattery as a seduction program, they would know that embellishments are a problem. In fact, for these people, they are major warning signs.

Participation and engagement are what distinguish conscious individuals from unconscious ones. Conscious individuals have many different ways to successfully engage others. They do not give up or lack enthusiasm in exploring options. Unconscious people give up quickly and have less willingness to place themselves in any open or intimate environment. Conscious individuals know how to ask questions and their curiosity drives them to try and understand why things are the way they are. Conscious individuals promote self-ownership and the revelation of who people are. They love respecting the mystery and esteeming the mastery of the people with whom they come in contact. They are unselfish and open to seeing things from others’ perspectives. What distinguishes them is there ability to invest and be with people as they are.

What is different about conscious people is their willingness to listen to people’s stories without taking them seriously. Stories do not make a person; experience does. Most people edit their experiences so what they tell you is only partially true. As conscious individuals, we need to frame our own Truth in a way that attracts the right people to us. This means expanding and rewriting our stories so we are no longer at their effect. This means they need to be more transpersonally uplifted. In this class, we explore how to say who we are without relying on previous stories. Let us learn to focus on Compatibility Factors, Motives and relationship Lessons as our initial connection opportunities. This will provide the key indicators of whether or not we invest further time in someone.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, October 27th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
Picture of Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 12 :: Optimizing Online Dating Services
Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 12 :: Optimizing Online Dating Services
There are many obstacles to using online dating services. People’s profiles can be fishing expeditions by married individuals looking for a hookup. Their pictures may be 20 years old, if we are lucky. The very medium of interacting through a computer tends to attract more Distant or disengaged people. Finally, there are the many misguided attempts to determine compatibility through a series of questions. Despite these obstacles, online dating provides a focused group of individuals who believe they are capable of attracting a partner. Higher Alignment’s assessment tools provide a way to cut through these obstacles to identify the top candidates in your locale. This requires good pictures and simple qualification statements (such as, are they non-smokers?), and some sort of background check.

While it is more difficult to use online dating services (for all the above reasons), there are also opportunities to practice and explore possibilities with people who may be more similar to you. It requires preparing a profile, selecting photos, answering a lot of questions and being willing to monitor the process on a regular basis. Some people find this to be too tedious. For them, we need to work on putting them in places (locations, groups, activities, etc.) where they would most likely meet the people who are similar to them. These individuals will need more ability to see compatibility differences. They will also want to use their network of friends for people who might match the qualities they seek. This is why, upon reflection, some of the dating sites are a bit more effective than others. What Higher Alignment can do is go through the pictures of your choosing and point out the people who are your Primary Creative Expression, could be sexually compatible and who are defensively similar. Individuals, such as Larry, can search through and assess up to 800 pictures per hour. In these situations, we usually find 10 or more suitable matches. This still requires people to follow up these individuals and inspire them to respond.

The benefit of online dating is that our preferences can be taken into account. This means we can sort people by age, if they smoke, their marital status, social activities and even athletic interests (if any). Since there are at least 60 million individuals on dating sites at any given time, there are many opportunities for connection. This allows a greater degree of targeting that can lead to finding appropriate partners. Higher Alignment sees this process as a way to practice showing up an being ourselves. It encourages us to be confident and to not compromise ourselves. It focuses us on the larger picture so we can learn how a person might work with us, even if they do not look like they would fit our preconceived notions. We still stand by the concept that it is us taking ownership of our creativity that makes us visible and attractive to the best partner candidates. It is time to be the driving energy behind what will fulfill us.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, November 10th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
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