Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 10 :: Utilizing Common Lessons
When we have common Motives and Skills, our life lessons become more obvious. This can become a major opportunity to accelerate our mutual development, because being with a partner who sees us fully reminds us of our gifts and grace. Business or romantic partners also help us to make the connection between personal endeavors and partnership explorations. Having a work-life balance is critical to maintaining our sense of self. Without Personal Autonomy, we would not be able to take risks in service of larger possibilities. While relationships can be highly stimulating, we also need to respect our personal pacing. Like breathing, there are cycles of inspiration and exhalation, where individuals learn to take time for themselves so they have insights to bring back to the relationship.
One final way we validate a great relationship is our ability to relax together. While many idealize and do infantile behaviors as a way of justifying relaxation, it is Stillness, Silence and Solitude, separately and together, that makes relaxation a goal in itself. The goal, of course, is regeneration. Without regeneration, cyclic behaviors would have no purpose. It is also how we can clear out imbalances in our experiential modalities of Sensations, Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts. Whenever we become attached, positional or overwhelmed on any of the four levels, it creates blockages where we act out through Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization patterns. the result is that we cannot be present to each other because we have distanced ourselves from our partners. When these patterns become a defensive protection system, our separativeness is complete. We are no longer available to each other or anyone else.
Understanding how our partners respond to life, and what we can do to benefit them, requires self reflection. We need to be able to separate our own experience from theirs so we can see how to best support them. We need to learn to not try to fix our partners, but instead be responsive, playful and even paradoxical in our interactions. Self-understanding is the best way to reach others in their own pain. The more we can be empathic, without losing ourselves, the more compassion we will demonstrate. It is also critical not to push or attempt to process our partners so they fix themselves. They need to have their own motivation and desire to engage, or nothing will move or grow. In this class, we will cover the Twelve Lessons of Growth in relationships. When we find alignment in our lessons and how we interact together in service of these lessons, we have found a great partner!
Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith
Class Schedule: Saturday, October 13th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)
Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)