Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 6 :: Recognizing Motives
Sustainable, conscious relationships require common Motives. Motives are impulses that operate on Instinctive, Intellectual, Idealized and Intuitive levels. Instinctive Motives are Greed, Lust and Arrogance. The Intellectual Motives are Personal Dominion, Self Centered Activity and Personal Achievement. Idealized Motives are Idealized Trust, Co-Creativity and Unity. The Intuitive Motives are Universal Dominion, Conscious Participation and Mutual Accomplishment. Each of the Twelve Motives provides a structure for understanding the degree others can meet us. If we are holding on and requiring others to meet us in higher Motives, it will be difficult, if not impossible, for others to step up to this option, particularly if we do not first meet them were they are.
Motives also reveal the degree of comfort someone has in sharing their masculine, feminine or combined nature. In dating situations with a difference in Motives, there is less trust and opportunity. Someone who is fluid in all the Motives can easily recognize the capacity (or lack) and engagement level of others. If we want to prevent being surprised by our relationships, we need to be able to recognize lower level Motives (so we do not get blindsided by mismatched Motives). This is particularly true, because Seducers rely on Instinctive and Intellectual Motives to justify their interest and subsequent activities. In this class we provide examples of how Motives, with Compatibility Factors, can be the best indicators of long-term affinity.
In Universal Dominion, we hold space for the Truth of others and accept it as their Truth. We do not need to agree with them to maintain the relationship. In Mutual Accomplishment, we seek opportunities for creative momentum, yet also allow Stillness, Solitude and Silence to permeate our process. In Conscious Participation, we recognize that we need to show up 100% of the time. If we do not, can others really count on us? Instead of demanding things from our partners, we request what could work for us, but are prepared to solve the problem ourselves. Nor do we demand things from others, as we realize we are highly skilled in finding ways to bridge Differences consciously. Our starting assumption is always to better prepare ourselves so we have the greatest odds for success.
Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith
Class Schedule: Saturday, August 11th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)
Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)