Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 9 :: Discovering What Works
As we explore each relationship we learn to validate our preferences so we understand what irritates us and what works for us. Starting with the premise of our Creative Nature, we are naturally attracted to individuals who are similar. Since we have grown up in compromised relationships, we frequently become enamored by the idea of overcoming differences as a way to prove ourselves to our partners. This approach minimizes our creative flow and maximizes our separateness. Making conscious choices about relationships requires experiencing both sides of the spectrum, from many commonalities to many differences. Some individuals prefer a mixture of the two, because it keeps them alert. The real question is, what resources do I have to deal with these patterns over time?
When a new person shows up and they remind us of a positive association, how will this association fare over time? Few of us have answers for these questions. It takes experimenting with two or three conscious relationships before we know what works for us. Otherwise, we fall into unconscious parental, opposition or power frameworks of choice. Since we suggest that you use two major Compatibility Factors (Primary Creative Expression and our Defense style) as the starting points for sorting out our best partner opportunities, we still need to validate other options to make sure they are viable choices. We recommend avoiding Co-Dependent or oppositional choices. We suggest that certain parental imprints will become irritating over time.
The real impact of these issues is determined by how we hold them in ourselves. Some differences take a lot of energy to manage, while others may not. In this course, we will talk about the benefits of common Pacing, Communication Process and Decision Making Approach. Sometimes, finding a partner with a similar parental pattern means we understand them better than our own pattern. It takes experimentation and observation to make these choices conscious. We believe it is likely that you will have a better sense of this balance within seven months. The problem is that we do not speak our Truth about the impact of our differences, believing they will magically go away. This is a mistake! The cost of this path is we get in relationships that last two years or less. Our recommendation is to speak openly about your differences and accept personal responsibility that it is only our reaction, not our partner’s, that is the cause. Our partners are not doing it ‘to us,’ because we are responsible for our internal response. If we cannot change this response, we need to recognize it as our issue. Our objective needs to be to accept our partner completely as they are.
Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith
Class Schedule: Saturday, September 22nd 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)
Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)