Recognizing Defenses

How To See And Value Defensive Patterns

Defenses provide a superficial framework of identity about who we think we are. Most of us do not separate defenses from our greater creative identity, the result being that we become creatively submerged and over-identified with how others’ reactions (towards us) define us. Defenses are constructed from reactive experiences where we have become entangled in the fears and desires of others. There is an irony that until we consciously step into our own Creative Nature it is the debris and history of our actions that define our personality characteristics.

By being our Defense, we try to make ourselves more important and relevant. Survival and success programming become defined by our defensive nature and we elevate Fears, Desires and Self Importance over Creative aspirations. Before we go further, Defenses, (like Pretenses and Imprinting), are defined by our environment and as we become conscious, we transcend this protective conditioning. Arguing for our Defense is the same as arguing for self-imposed limitations. It is not a recommended Higher Alignment approach!

Most people derive value from Higher Alignment because they see how they no longer have to operate in self-limiting patterns. Our descriptions, particularly about Defenses, describe how we can release ourselves from partial truths and beliefs of our childhood. It is natural to be someone who has a unique contribution to make in the world. Defensive identification (conversely) limits our growth and sabotages hope. The irony of a Defense is that it focuses us on what we are not and does not allow us to embrace our Creative Being. Defenses are completely predictable, while creativity is not. Using the justification that they are a necessary protection mechanism means defenses steal our lives. To heal our defense, we need to embrace the three pairs of opposites that disconnect us from Life, Light and Love.

When we get caught in defensive distortions we act out our fears, which wreaks havoc. What makes these patterns difficult are the many times we cannot see, accept or experience them for the terror they invoke in others. This is how disengagement, distraction, bullying, sexual harassment, crime, racial discrimination, alienation and domestic abuse occur. Defenses are as powerful as we make them. Some individuals (sadly) invest their entire lives in building better defenses. They do this because in a Defense there is no real reflection or feedback from others. Defensive individuals either look scary, disconnected or invisible. No one wants to be seen fully in his or her defense because it creates confusion in others. The choice to heal our defense is the first step on the path of enlightenment.

HA is hopeful that the more we know about Defenses, the less we will need to employ them. Also, it is important to acknowledge that people’s Defenses have merit. Defenses work to protect us, otherwise we would not spend so much energy maintaining and developing them. As we gain consciousness, we detach from our defenses, and instead try to learn how they appear in relation to the assumptions of others. This makes it easier to avoid entanglements. Each Defense has its own way of being honored, so most things we do with them do not have to trigger reactions. The more clearly we see our Defense, the more finesse we demonstrate in moving through life without expending valuable time and energy. Defenses, literally, suck.

What makes a Defense harder to identify is when we are trapped in our own Defenses. Defenses minimize our Energy, Time and Space, contracting and limiting our ability to see better options. If we had past incidents where we reacted badly, we may get re-simulated to create them, confusing the current situation. We need to clear these old patterns to recover our energy. There are many dimensions to our Defense patterns, and each responds differently (as will be shown in the course). We need to be clear about all the variations so we do not become inadvertently trapped. There are four basic Defense patterns, and these may be covered up by four Facades, where we pretend to “be” another layer of defense. When a parent does not accept our Defense style (because it does not fit their idea of who we should be), it creates layers of confusion. This is what we seek to clarify in this course.

The purpose of this course is to empower participants to see and respond to different defensive patterns easily and without effort. One of the key shifts in Higher Alignment is being able to choose individuals who share our same Defense pattern, and not get fixated by our opposite Defense Style. When we do not accept our Creative Nature, we tend to be attracted to partners with opposite defense styles to our own. We are trained to ‘not’ see similar defense individuals, particularly when they are possible romantic partners. In this course, we provide hundreds of photos of each defense type to help students identify the physical and energetic markers of each defense style. Every “Recognizing” class at Higher Alignment is specially formatted to provide examples and practice quizzes to be completed with the group. At the end of each class we will begin to see these differences in others. Studying the coursework will complete our process.

Schedule:
Class 1: Recognizing Distant Defense Style—June 21st
Class 2: Recognizing Dynamic Defense Style—July 19th
Class 3: Recognizing Disarming Defense Style—August 2nd
Class 4: Recognizing Disnamic Defense Style—August 16th

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How To See And Value Defensive Patterns

Defenses provide a superficial framework of identity about who we think we are. Most of us do not separate defenses from our greater creative identity, the result being that we become creatively submerged and over-identified with how others’ reactions (towards us) define us. Defenses are constructed from reactive experiences where we have become entangled in the fears and desires of others. There is an irony that until we consciously step into our own Creative Nature it is the debris and history of our actions that define our personality characteristics.

By being our Defense, we try to make ourselves more important and relevant. Survival and success programming become defined by our defensive nature and we elevate Fears, Desires and Self Importance over Creative aspirations. Before we go further, Defenses, (like Pretenses and Imprinting), are defined by our environment and as we become conscious, we transcend this protective conditioning. Arguing for our Defense is the same as arguing for self-imposed limitations. It is not a recommended Higher Alignment approach!

Most people derive value from Higher Alignment because they see how they no longer have to operate in self-limiting patterns. Our descriptions, particularly about Defenses, describe how we can release ourselves from partial truths and beliefs of our childhood. It is natural to be someone who has a unique contribution to make in the world. Defensive identification (conversely) limits our growth and sabotages hope. The irony of a Defense is that it focuses us on what we are not and does not allow us to embrace our Creative Being. Defenses are completely predictable, while creativity is not. Using the justification that they are a necessary protection mechanism means defenses steal our lives. To heal our defense, we need to embrace the three pairs of opposites that disconnect us from Life, Light and Love.

When we get caught in defensive distortions we act out our fears, which wreaks havoc. What makes these patterns difficult are the many times we cannot see, accept or experience them for the terror they invoke in others. This is how disengagement, distraction, bullying, sexual harassment, crime, racial discrimination, alienation and domestic abuse occur. Defenses are as powerful as we make them. Some individuals (sadly) invest their entire lives in building better defenses. They do this because in a Defense there is no real reflection or feedback from others. Defensive individuals either look scary, disconnected or invisible. No one wants to be seen fully in his or her defense because it creates confusion in others. The choice to heal our defense is the first step on the path of enlightenment.

HA is hopeful that the more we know about Defenses, the less we will need to employ them. Also, it is important to acknowledge that people’s Defenses have merit. Defenses work to protect us, otherwise we would not spend so much energy maintaining and developing them. As we gain consciousness, we detach from our defenses, and instead try to learn how they appear in relation to the assumptions of others. This makes it easier to avoid entanglements. Each Defense has its own way of being honored, so most things we do with them do not have to trigger reactions. The more clearly we see our Defense, the more finesse we demonstrate in moving through life without expending valuable time and energy. Defenses, literally, suck.

What makes a Defense harder to identify is when we are trapped in our own Defenses. Defenses minimize our Energy, Time and Space, contracting and limiting our ability to see better options. If we had past incidents where we reacted badly, we may get re-simulated to create them, confusing the current situation. We need to clear these old patterns to recover our energy. There are many dimensions to our Defense patterns, and each responds differently (as will be shown in the course). We need to be clear about all the variations so we do not become inadvertently trapped. There are four basic Defense patterns, and these may be covered up by four Facades, where we pretend to “be” another layer of defense. When a parent does not accept our Defense style (because it does not fit their idea of who we should be), it creates layers of confusion. This is what we seek to clarify in this course.

The purpose of this course is to empower participants to see and respond to different defensive patterns easily and without effort. One of the key shifts in Higher Alignment is being able to choose individuals who share our same Defense pattern, and not get fixated by our opposite Defense Style. When we do not accept our Creative Nature, we tend to be attracted to partners with opposite defense styles to our own. We are trained to ‘not’ see similar defense individuals, particularly when they are possible romantic partners. In this course, we provide hundreds of photos of each defense type to help students identify the physical and energetic markers of each defense style. Every “Recognizing” class at Higher Alignment is specially formatted to provide examples and practice quizzes to be completed with the group. At the end of each class we will begin to see these differences in others. Studying the coursework will complete our process.

Schedule:
Class 1: Recognizing Distant Defense Style—June 21st
Class 2: Recognizing Dynamic Defense Style—July 19th
Class 3: Recognizing Disarming Defense Style—August 2nd
Class 4: Recognizing Disnamic Defense Style—August 16th

Class Note: This is the first time everyone will have to pay in advance through PayPal. Thank you for understanding our desire to have an effective enrollment.

$197.00
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Recognizing Defenses :: Class 1: Recognizing Distant Defense Style
Distant Defense Styles are the result of denying both our masculine and feminine sides.Ironically, this generates a superficial emphasis on gender roles, such as being a good provider, nurturer, or both. We can recognize this type of individual because of their desire for consistency, even though they, themselves, may be inconsistent. They can be identified by how they operate at a fixed distance from people to maximize comfort. This is because physical distance indicates how safe they feel. Distant people are primarily motivated by Excitement, which means they are fantasy focused, and want more respect and esteem, but feel they must work for it. They typically have minimal expectations and tend to deny outer needs for fear of how others might react to them.

As Distant individuals, we demonstrate strength in thinking (as an experiential modality) but vacillate in our Sensations, Feelings and Emotions, not believing they are critical to having a complete experience. Our primary fear is not being wanted, which means we do not want to impose ourselves on others. This creates a sense of isolation and reinforces familial connections, even if these connections are not great. We are most influenced by Objectification patterns where outer appearances and looking good falsely indicate our internal states of being. We accept authority, but freeze when challenged. We want to negotiate every problem, but do not expect any real answers to emerge. This is because we are anchored in certain activities that we repeat constantly, even when they are not necessary. We are sensitive to guilt, being judged and react quickly with avoidance behaviors when attacked. We validate the truth by what we can physically see.

Distant individuals seek beauty, but do not want to be at the effect of it. The challenge is to clarify our personal Intent. The problem is that we tend to react when others try to tell us what to do. We have difficulty relaxing. Our sense of safety comes from habits or daily rituals where things do not change too much. We hate jealousy but end up being very attached to certain individuals. When we get overwhelmed, we make unilateral decisions that deny input from others. We are selective about our commitments. We have difficulty making public mistakes and try to ignore any discussion about them. In this course we talk about how physically close to operate with Distant individuals. Through the review of hundreds of pictures, we explore the various physical and energetic characteristics that indicate a Distant Defense Style Our objective is to offer enough examples so we will be able to see these characteristics in life. The class also comes with all presentations (in PDF format) and video recordings.



Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Thursday, June 21, 2018, 6-9pm MT

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
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Recognizing Defenses :: Class 2: Recognizing Dynamic Defense Style
Dynamic Defense Styles are the result of denying our feminine and emphasizing our masculine.We emphasize Mastery, Time and Task centered management and goal-centric activities. We act outwardly strong and certain, even when we are not. We are identified by a perimeter Defense Style, with hidden emotional vulnerabilities. We are strong in objective, experiential modalities, such as Sensations and Thoughts. We use our intellectual framework to enhance Security. We demonstrate strong autonomy and self esteem while seeking intimacy and self respect. Dynamic people are primarily motivated by being seen getting the job done. Being acknowledged is everything. Feelings and Emotions are controlled so they do not get out of control. Power is generated by being able to impose their thoughts on others. They use order and structure to justify taking positions that elevate them over others. They break down each problem so it can be appreciated and solved.


As Dynamic individuals, we admire strength, despise weakness and will fight (when challenged) to prove ourselves. We validate our Truth intellectually by getting people to agree with our assumptions. Since defenses are partial truths, we are highly susceptible to Illusions. Sometimes, we get caught up in Intensity, because we cannot distinguish our own Truth. This is why we seek Wisdom in others and try to learn more about circumstances from them. The biggest illusion we confront is that information is power. When we do not consider all the possibilities, we are susceptible to snap judgments that end up backfiring. Our biggest fear is that we are not loved. To resolve this, we invest in activities and intellectual support to convince others we are behind them.

Dynamic individuals seek truth but have difficulty being complete with it. Our time-centeredness drives us into competitive situations, where we always measure our performance vs. others’. We believe that a good offense is the best defense and therefore seek to throw others off balance so we will have an advantage. We rarely trust our intuition, even if we have developed it as part of our creative expression. It is not recommended to confront or make fun of the truth of a Dynamic individual. It will not end well! Through the review of hundreds of pictures, we explore the various physical and energetic characteristics that indicate a Dynamic Defense Style,. Our objective is to offer enough examples so we will be able to see these characteristics in life. The class also comes with all presentations (in PDF format) and video recordings.


Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Thursday, July 19, 2018, 6-9pm MT

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
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Recognizing Defenses :: Class 3: Recognizing Disarming Defense Style
Disarming Defense Styles are the result of denying our masculine and emphasizing our feminine.We emphasize Mystery, Chaos that invokes unexpected outcomes. Our outer softness conceals a strong interior where, if we are pushed to perform, we typically exceed people’s expectations. This Defense style is initially adaptive, but eventually can be pushed too far and becomes explosive. We demonstrate strong intimacy and self respect while seeking to improve our Autonomy Skills and self esteem. To accomplish this, we need to be grounded in our physical body. Our perceptual strengths are mostly subjective and comprised of the unification of Feelings and Emotions, producing playful Passion and intuition. The problem is when we get caught up in Projections where, when we want something to be true, we idealize ourselves or others to make it so.

Our primary fear is that we are not adequate or enough. We tend to redefine problems to fit our at-hand preconceived solutions. We adore openness, hate bullies and flee from confrontation when we do not see the value in it. This reflects that we are sensitive to blame, express fear to make peace with it and repress anger because we are not comfortable expressing it. Disarming Defense Style individuals are easily identified by their gorilla warfare approach, where misdirection helps divert attention away from their actions. We can get caught up in drama, particularly when it allows us to divert attention away from certain alternatives we wish to avoid. When we identify with this defense, we believe that our Goodness produces a context where we can see meanings, even when others cannot.

Anxiety wears us down, particularly when we get caught up in having to compare ourselves to everyone around us. It would be helpful to not take ourselves so seriously or to project how others should be good, because it sabotages our personal self development. We are susceptible to jealousy and envy because we fear others have the qualities we lack. Through the review of hundreds of pictures, we explore the various physical and energetic characteristics that indicate a Disarming Defense Style Our objective is to offer enough examples so we will be able to see these characteristics in life. The class also comes with all presentations (in PDF format) and video recordings.



Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Thursday, August 2, 2018, 6-9pm MT

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00
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Recognizing Defenses :: Class 4: Recognizing Disnamic Defense Style
Disnamic Defense Style individuals jump back and forth between feminine and masculine expressions. It is only when we are Pioneering that we can do the two simultaneously. Disnamic individuals shift back and forth because in their formative years each parent had a different Defense. In order to be seen, they learned to complement each parent by being each one’s mirror image. They are easily identified, because when we engage them in soft ways, they respond with strength, and vice versa. Their goal is to always create a full picture of all sides of a situation so better decisions can be made. Problems arise when they are in groups where some individuals expresses dynamic defense while others express disarming or distant defense. This context is difficult for the dysnamic individual who feels pulled to express several opposing defenses simultaneously and creates friction in their ability to meet the needs of everyone at the same time. They become agitated when they cannot mirror or include thinking and emotional states simultaneously. To accomplish this, they need to take ownership of having both masculine and feminine sides. Otherwise, they incorporate elements of Disarming and Dynamic defenses that are in conflict with each other.

Our biggest fear is that no one will know us as we are. This is because we see ourselves as chameleon, changing our color depending on the circumstances. We see value in counterbalancing and completing others. We need to learn how to do this within ourselves. In addition to reconciling the masculine and feminine polarity, we need to also reconcile interior and exterior experiences. This is the polarity issue between Dynamic (interior) and Disarming (exterior) defense experiences. We become Pioneers when our interior and exterior become fully interrelated and conscious. Disnamic Defense Styles are the most adaptive, translating their experiences between Esteem and Respect or Aliveness and Wisdom. We are most influenced by the Defensive Distortions of our partners. We need to accept that our Motives and Beliefs can be flexible and not fixed.

The source of Defensive Healing is the rebalancing of Aliveness, Wisdom and Awareness. On a defensive level, choosing someone with the same patterns initially feels uncomfortable. This is because we have not yet accepted our own Being on a larger level. Not only does our Defense minimize our creativity, it also makes us question why being with this person would be a smart idea. The answer is that until we can be with others who are like us, we are unable to accept our own wholeness. When we can be seen and accepted by others like ourselves, we naturally strengthen rather than drain each other. It also makes it possible to not have to endlessly explain ourselves to others (because of defensive differences). Disnamic Defense is the easiest to heal, when we seek clarity, to facilitate being a Pioneer.



Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Thursday, August 16, 2018, 6-9pm MT

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

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