Finding Conscious & Complete Partners
Fear in dating causes individuals to lie rather than risk rejection. The desire to be accepted drives us to present only what is appealing about us. Self-importance (or a lack of confidence) encourages us to negotiate for the best deal, despite the odds, believing we may not be able to easily find similar partners. What these compromises miss is the power of Creative Self Affirmation to attract individuals like us, to us. Instead of pursuing a random numbers game, we need to manifest time, energy and space dedicated to being the partner we want to have. This occurs when we transform our Attractions from Excitement to Aliveness, Intensity to Wisdom and Anxiety to Awareness. We are aided when we learn how to identify individuals with similar Compatibility Factors. We also discover how we have been caught in Co-Dependent Attractions that drain us. Letting go of parental patterns, opposite attractions and the need to be superior or better prepared in a relationship frees us up to wisely choose appropriate partners.
The image of dating has taken a hit because of unrealistic romantic expectations. By making love personal, we deny the unity we seek with our partners. Conscious individuals need to prioritize Creative Chemistry over sexual chemistry to manifest long-term partnerships. When we do, it is easy to create sustainable heartfelt connections with great sexuality. More people than ever are caught in Romantic mythology euphoria, where they cannot make decisions for fear that something better will show up. The reality of our relationships is that they are an investment, and that through growth, we transmute, transform and transfigure over time. Enlightened Dating is about seeing the good and bad in our partners to find the one who sees, appreciates and loves us fully for who we are. To accomplish this we must stop looking at our partners as caretakers, power brokers, or needs fulfillment mechanisms. With Co-Creativity (instead of Co-Dependence) we manifest a playful and joyful sharing that is based upon a personal sense of Autonomy. The illusion is that we can figure everything out on our own. While we do need to develop our own understanding, our partner must also be able to share this understanding, or the relationship, being unbalanced, will falter.
We need to re-educate ourselves about what to strive for and how to establish our priorities. The priority needs to be co-creative Communion, effortless Communication, equal Decision-Making and synergistic Alignment. When we join a partner in an aligned learning processes we are uplifted and enhanced. We grow as we practice—with our friends, romantic and business partners (not sexual partners). Co-Creative projects, where we show up doing what we love, automatically attracts others to us. As we upgrade the quality of the people in our lives they become important in guiding us to our ultimate partners. Our consciousness becomes a way to refine and clarify our gifts. We can make huge impacts through small acts of kindness. It all begins when we choose the best people with whom to invest our lives.
Creative Alignment is the experience of being open to Beauty, Truth and Goodness in the world. With a Common Neutral Ground we manifest a direct interface to the Universe. This connection is the quality of being present with ourselves so we can hold a mirrored, independent space for our relationships. When we show up, we can then experience our lives. Ironically, we do not need others for us to see ourselves, but with them life is richer and more satisfying. Paradoxically, we bond when we respect each other’s boundaries. We also build self-esteem when we admire others. We heal our Defense and eliminate false ways of building favor. This is the key to un-entangled relationships. Creative balance and flow are the magic of Co-Creative partnerships. Knowing where we are and being able to meet others in a cyclical way helps to regenerate the relationships we are in. Our success in finding great partners who are conscious and complete is directly related to the types of compromises we make. What would our world look like without compromise? Learn more about Enlightened Dating with Higher Alignment!