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Creative Assessment Party

Independent Perspectives About Your Style

Creative Assessments are ways we honor our differences. Each Compatibility Factor identifies a range of choices that can help us to see why we are not accepted or understood for who we are. At our assessment parties we cover seven factors that most impact relationship choices. While we do try to be 85% accurate on pictures, and 90-95% accuracy in person, there are challenges. The reason our coaches are more accurate is they have cleared their own parental distortions and are not projecting them on their clients. Sometimes clients are not able to support the process because of contradictory beliefs they hold from childhood. Any confusion we may experience also limits our ability to accurately see others.


The value of doing a Creative Assessment is it allows us to identify where are aligned to or similar to someone. This can lead to choosing better partners. When someone is similar to us, it does not require much work to explain ourselves. The issue is about loving ourselves as we are, because it allows us to see and engage those who are most able to love us. Otherwise, we end up looking for partners who match our parental patterns. This is why so many of us use Excitement, Intensity and Anxiety to determine which partners will be the most willing to compromise themselves for us. This promotes Co-Dependent choices over Co-Creative ones.


There is even a value in identifying our differences, as this can lead to discovering better ways to operate together. For example, if we know our partner’s first level of communication is Think-First, and we are Feel-First, it would be best to engage the Think-First with information or Content. We can ask them if they want to talk about a particular topic, how much time they have, and the bullet points we think should be covered. We complete this communication by asking when they would like to make a decision (because they are time centered). This gives a Think-First individual time to prepare and allows the Feel First person to organize their information so the Think-First partner can quickly validate it. Since a Think-First person seeks Truth and a Feel-First individual seeks harmony, the Feel-First individual can create more truth by being consistent and declarative in their harmony.


This is just one example of differences we see between individuals around how they communicate. Understanding the full range of communication options empowers us to recognize what is needed in different situations. In our Mini Creative Assessment process, we discuss the seven differences in Communication style, Decision-Making, Defense Styles, Pacing differences and the three levels of creative archetypes. We not only combine these assessments individually, but discuss the differences in the group so people can see how each factor honors their natural way of Being. The more we understand what makes us powerful contributors, the easier it is to find partners and authentic work that is aligned with us.


Only 20 people will be able to participate in this Creative Assessment process. This month’s event is only for singles. Next month it will only be for couples. This allows us to customize the conversation so people can learn the most in the least amount of time. We will send out presentations and recordings of the event. Videos taken will not show individual participants. It is on a first come, first served basis. You may call Sandy Jaquith for registration or respond to one of our email registration processes. We will operate in a safe group space and go though the assessments one level at a time. We will provide assessment booklets to help people make sense of the different patterns.


Date: Saturday, October 20, 2018 5:30-9:00pm Mountain Time
Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandy Jaquith
Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301

Understanding Defensive Patterns

Defenses provide a superficial framework of identity about who we think we are. Most of us do not separate defenses from our greater creative identity, the result being that we become creatively submerged and over-identified with how others’ reactions (towards us) define us. Defenses are constructed from reactive experiences where we have become entangled in the fears and desires of others. There is an irony that until we consciously step into our own Creative Nature it is the debris and history of our actions that define our personality characteristics. There are three patterns of self-denial: Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization.

Recognizing Subjectification

Defenses provide a superficial framework of identity about who we think we are. Most of us do not separate defenses from our greater creative identity, the result being that we become creatively submerged and over-identified with how others’ reactions (towards us) define us. Defenses are constructed from reactive experiences where we have become entangled in the fears and desires of others. There is an irony that until we consciously step into our own Creative Nature it is the debris and history of our actions that define our personality characteristics. There are three patterns of self-denial: Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization. Subjectification is when we attempt to dictate the truth of others by over-riding their Autonomy. We end up operating in opposite defensive patterns (Masculine Dynamic Style or Feminine Disarming Style) so we can create a false sense of security.

$59.00

Recognizing Communication Process

How we organize our experience produces different communication styles. Our communication process is the sequence in which we think, feel, and act. Each individual has a unique sequence that reflects the way they communicate. Each sequence has its way of initiating, validating and completing the Communication Process. As each person experiences thinking, feeling and action, it is the sequence of these that creates seven unique styles of communication. Based on this sequence, we end up focusing on particular ways to communicate that leads to problems when we have different priorities in our communication process. Words mean different things to people who are focusing on their thinking, feeling, or acting in the moment. Our communication, therefore, is only easy and fluid when we are with those who share the same sequence. Misunderstandings abound with people who deny our communications in ways similar to our parents.

$59.00

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 11 :: Revealing What Is Important

Being real is the way conscious individuals attract attention. The more we are comfortable expressing both the good and the bad, the more our partners will come to trust us. One of the common mistakes people make is not telling the whole story or misrepresenting a circumstance, then having it emerge in an unplanned way. Another mistake is to amplify our image by trying to impress others. This comes off as insincere, then later becomes a repulsion when it become publicly known as untrue. The Truth needs no embellishment. Anyone who believes it does is operating unconsciously in their personality programming. Since we are looking for conscious individuals who would automatically suspect flattery as a seduction program, they would know that embellishments are a problem. In fact, for these people, they are major warning signs.

Participation and engagement are what distinguish conscious individuals from unconscious ones. Conscious individuals have many different ways to successfully engage others. They do not give up or lack enthusiasm in exploring options. Unconscious people give up quickly and have less willingness to place themselves in any open or intimate environment. Conscious individuals know how to ask questions and their curiosity drives them to try and understand why things are the way they are. Conscious individuals promote self-ownership and the revelation of who people are. They love respecting the mystery and esteeming the mastery of the people with whom they come in contact. They are unselfish and open to seeing things from others’ perspectives. What distinguishes them is there ability to invest and be with people as they are.

What is different about conscious people is their willingness to listen to people’s stories without taking them seriously. Stories do not make a person; experience does. Most people edit their experiences so what they tell you is only partially true. As conscious individuals, we need to frame our own Truth in a way that attracts the right people to us. This means expanding and rewriting our stories so we are no longer at their effect. This means they need to be more transpersonally uplifted. In this class, we explore how to say who we are without relying on previous stories. Let us learn to focus on Compatibility Factors, Motives and relationship Lessons as our initial connection opportunities. This will provide the key indicators of whether or not we invest further time in someone.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, October 27th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00

Recognizing Idealization

Defenses provide a superficial framework of identity about who we think we are. Most of us do not separate defenses from our greater creative identity, the result being that we become creatively submerged and over-identified with how others’ reactions (towards us) define us. Defenses are constructed from reactive experiences where we have become entangled in the fears and desires of others. There is an irony that until we consciously step into our own Creative Nature it is the debris and history of our actions that define our personality characteristics. There are three patterns of self-denial: Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization. Idealization is when we attempt to project our ideals upon others falsely believing that they will implement them to our standards. We end up operating in systems of comparison where our self-importance or goodness is tested against others. We either blame others or blame ourselves.

$59.00

Recognizing WorldView

WorldView is the perceptual or experiential framework by which individuals “construct,” interpret and make sense of the world. Central to a WorldView is a set of operating assumptions (or beliefs) about what is possible to experience, the nature of experience, and the basis of value and what it all means. We call these “operating assumptions” because they are indicated by actions and undirected responses. Over time, we become aware that the operating assumptions (of our life) manifest the possibility that we can change them. The more complexity we are able to engage, the more conscious we become. This increasing sophistication, in response to our experience, generally increases the awareness of our creative nature. We learn what we best contribute, and it flows. In other words, greater consciousness provides further awareness, more perceptual tools and expanded choices. As our consciousness grows, we have an ever-deepening connection to Life, Light and Love.

$59.00

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 12 :: Optimizing Online Dating Services

There are many obstacles to using online dating services. People’s profiles can be fishing expeditions by married individuals looking for a hookup. Their pictures may be 20 years old, if we are lucky. The very medium of interacting through a computer tends to attract more Distant or disengaged people. Finally, there are the many misguided attempts to determine compatibility through a series of questions. Despite these obstacles, online dating provides a focused group of individuals who believe they are capable of attracting a partner. Higher Alignment’s assessment tools provide a way to cut through these obstacles to identify the top candidates in your locale. This requires good pictures and simple qualification statements (such as, are they non-smokers?), and some sort of background check.

While it is more difficult to use online dating services (for all the above reasons), there are also opportunities to practice and explore possibilities with people who may be more similar to you. It requires preparing a profile, selecting photos, answering a lot of questions and being willing to monitor the process on a regular basis. Some people find this to be too tedious. For them, we need to work on putting them in places (locations, groups, activities, etc.) where they would most likely meet the people who are similar to them. These individuals will need more ability to see compatibility differences. They will also want to use their network of friends for people who might match the qualities they seek. This is why, upon reflection, some of the dating sites are a bit more effective than others. What Higher Alignment can do is go through the pictures of your choosing and point out the people who are your Primary Creative Expression, could be sexually compatible and who are defensively similar. Individuals, such as Larry, can search through and assess up to 800 pictures per hour. In these situations, we usually find 10 or more suitable matches. This still requires people to follow up these individuals and inspire them to respond.

The benefit of online dating is that our preferences can be taken into account. This means we can sort people by age, if they smoke, their marital status, social activities and even athletic interests (if any). Since there are at least 60 million individuals on dating sites at any given time, there are many opportunities for connection. This allows a greater degree of targeting that can lead to finding appropriate partners. Higher Alignment sees this process as a way to practice showing up an being ourselves. It encourages us to be confident and to not compromise ourselves. It focuses us on the larger picture so we can learn how a person might work with us, even if they do not look like they would fit our preconceived notions. We still stand by the concept that it is us taking ownership of our creativity that makes us visible and attractive to the best partner candidates. It is time to be the driving energy behind what will fulfill us.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, November 10th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

$59.00

Recognizing Co-Dependence

A Co-Dependent relationship is one we fall into without making a choice. It is an enticing relationship structure that focuses on providing mutual safety and security. Most of the time, it operates from the premise that differences and opposite attractions help stabilize a relationship. What is not understood is that Co-Dependent relationships enforce a kind of mediocrity where both individuals need to agree about everything in order to move forward. This is because each individual has the power to destroy the relationship at any moment. In today’s world, Co-Dependent relationships are getting a bad rap, deservedly so. This is because they support major compromises that become more of a burden as the relationship ages.

$59.00

Couples Discovery

The goal of this course is to understand how we can build a creatively empowered and fully expressed conscious partnership.
$497.00