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Finding Conscious & Complete Partners

Enlightened Dating Summary

Changing our selection criteria for partners takes an understanding of what we are seeking. We need to learn how to be ourselves as Creative Being so we can attract partners who would naturally match us. This requires reorienting ourselves to what attracts us. We also need to stand up for ourselves so others can see us fully. Otherwise, we get caught in unconscious parental patterns or opposite attraction partners where Co-Dependence rules. This program, when followed, makes us conscious of when we are sabotaging ourselves by choosing partners who cannot go the distance. This twelve part series is meant to be a total program, yet some individuals feel they may only need certain parts of it. In our experience, the first six classes help us to become aware of our choices so we can shift beyond entanglement options.

Class Note: This is the first time everyone will have to pay in advance through PayPal. If attendees only register for the first class, and then want to do the full series, they will have to pay the full series price without a discount. This is due to new administration requirements. On the upside, by purchasing the whole series, we are providing Mini Creative Assessments for your parents and up to 3 past partners (a $145 value). Thank you for understanding our desire to have an effective enrollment process.

Recognizing Defenses

How To See And Value Defensive Patterns

Defenses provide a superficial framework of identity about who we think we are. Most of us do not separate defenses from our greater creative identity, the result being that we become creatively submerged and over-identified with how others’ reactions (towards us) define us. Defenses are constructed from reactive experiences where we have become entangled in the fears and desires of others. There is an irony that until we consciously step into our own Creative Nature it is the debris and history of our actions that define our personality characteristics.

By being our Defense, we try to make ourselves more important and relevant. Survival and success programming become defined by our defensive nature and we elevate Fears, Desires and Self Importance over Creative aspirations. Before we go further, Defenses, (like Pretenses and Imprinting), are defined by our environment and as we become conscious, we transcend this protective conditioning. Arguing for our Defense is the same as arguing for self-imposed limitations. It is not a recommended Higher Alignment approach!

Most people derive value from Higher Alignment because they see how they no longer have to operate in self-limiting patterns. Our descriptions, particularly about Defenses, describe how we can release ourselves from partial truths and beliefs of our childhood. It is natural to be someone who has a unique contribution to make in the world. Defensive identification (conversely) limits our growth and sabotages hope. The irony of a Defense is that it focuses us on what we are not and does not allow us to embrace our Creative Being. Defenses are completely predictable, while creativity is not. Using the justification that they are a necessary protection mechanism means defenses steal our lives. To heal our defense, we need to embrace the three pairs of opposites that disconnect us from Life, Light and Love.

When we get caught in defensive distortions we act out our fears, which wreaks havoc. What makes these patterns difficult are the many times we cannot see, accept or experience them for the terror they invoke in others. This is how disengagement, distraction, bullying, sexual harassment, crime, racial discrimination, alienation and domestic abuse occur. Defenses are as powerful as we make them. Some individuals (sadly) invest their entire lives in building better defenses. They do this because in a Defense there is no real reflection or feedback from others. Defensive individuals either look scary, disconnected or invisible. No one wants to be seen fully in his or her defense because it creates confusion in others. The choice to heal our defense is the first step on the path of enlightenment.

HA is hopeful that the more we know about Defenses, the less we will need to employ them. Also, it is important to acknowledge that people’s Defenses have merit. Defenses work to protect us, otherwise we would not spend so much energy maintaining and developing them. As we gain consciousness, we detach from our defenses, and instead try to learn how they appear in relation to the assumptions of others. This makes it easier to avoid entanglements. Each Defense has its own way of being honored, so most things we do with them do not have to trigger reactions. The more clearly we see our Defense, the more finesse we demonstrate in moving through life without expending valuable time and energy. Defenses, literally, suck.

What makes a Defense harder to identify is when we are trapped in our own Defenses. Defenses minimize our Energy, Time and Space, contracting and limiting our ability to see better options. If we had past incidents where we reacted badly, we may get re-simulated to create them, confusing the current situation. We need to clear these old patterns to recover our energy. There are many dimensions to our Defense patterns, and each responds differently (as will be shown in the course). We need to be clear about all the variations so we do not become inadvertently trapped. There are four basic Defense patterns, and these may be covered up by four Facades, where we pretend to “be” another layer of defense. When a parent does not accept our Defense style (because it does not fit their idea of who we should be), it creates layers of confusion. This is what we seek to clarify in this course.

The purpose of this course is to empower participants to see and respond to different defensive patterns easily and without effort. One of the key shifts in Higher Alignment is being able to choose individuals who share our same Defense pattern, and not get fixated by our opposite Defense Style. When we do not accept our Creative Nature, we tend to be attracted to partners with opposite defense styles to our own. We are trained to ‘not’ see similar defense individuals, particularly when they are possible romantic partners. In this course, we provide hundreds of photos of each defense type to help students identify the physical and energetic markers of each defense style. Every “Recognizing” class at Higher Alignment is specially formatted to provide examples and practice quizzes to be completed with the group. At the end of each class we will begin to see these differences in others. Studying the coursework will complete our process.

Class 1: Recognizing Distant Defense Style—June 21st
Class 2: Recognizing Dynamic Defense Style—July 19th
Class 3: Recognizing Disarming Defense Style—August 2nd
Class 4: Recognizing Disnamic Defense Style—August 16th

Class Note: This is the first time everyone will have to pay in advance through PayPal. Thank you for understanding our desire to have an effective enrollment.

Inner Seeing II

Inner Seeing II is being offered as an in-person class in our classroom, located at 2945 Center Green Ct., Boulder, Colorado, 80301, as well as by webinar worldwide. There are 12 class meetings, all on Monday evenings, August 27 through November 12, from 6pm to 9pm U.S. Mountain Time.

Facilitators are Larry Byram, Sandy Jaquith, Tom Faggiano

Prerequisites: Creative Uniqueness and Recognizing Creativity or permission of instructor.

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Introduction To Couples Discovery

A free intro presentation describing our couples program.

Couples Creative Assessment Party

Independent Perspectives About Your Style

Creative Assessments are ways we honor our differences. Each Compatibility Factor identifies a range of choices that can help us to see why we are not accepted or understood for who we are. This month the Creative Assessment Party is for couples so they can share the experience and work with each other from an equal level. We will summarize the differences and similarities of each couples’ mini-compatibility factors. Larry will also identify the major challenge in the relationship related to Objectification, Subjectification, or Idealization.

At our assessment parties we cover seven factors that most impact relationship choices. While we do try to be 85% accurate on pictures, and 90-95% accuracy in person, there are challenges. The reason our coaches are more accurate is they have cleared their own parental distortions and are not projecting them on their clients. Sometimes clients are not able to support the process because of contradictory beliefs they hold from childhood. Any confusion we may experience also limits our ability to accurately see others.

The value of doing a Creative Assessment is that it allows us to identify where are aligned to or similar to someone. This can lead to working more effectively with our partners. When someone is similar to us, it does not require much work to explain ourselves. The issue is about loving ourselves as we are because it allows us to see and engage those who are most able to love us. Many of us look for partners who match our parental patterns which is why we use Excitement, Intensity and Anxiety to determine which partners will be the most willing to compromise themselves for us. This promotes Co-Dependent choices over Co-Creative ones.

There is even a value in identifying our differences, as this can lead to discovering better ways to operate together. For example, if we know our partner’s first level of communication is Think-First, and we are Feel-First, it would be best to engage the Think-First with information or Content. We can ask them if they want to talk about a particular topic, how much time they have, and the bullet points we think should be covered. We complete this communication by asking when they would like to make a decision (because they are time centered). This gives a Think-First individual time to prepare and allows the Feel First person to organize their information so the Think-First partner can quickly validate it. Since a Think-First person seeks Truth and a Feel-First individual seeks harmony, the Feel-First individual can create more truth by being consistent and declarative in their harmony.

This is just one example of differences we see between individuals around how they communicate. Understanding the full range of communication options empowers us to recognize what is needed in different situations. In our Mini Creative Assessment process, we discuss the seven differences in Communication style, Decision-Making, Defense Styles, Pacing differences and the three levels of creative archetypes. We not only combine these assessments individually, but discuss the differences in the group so people can see how each factor honors their natural way of Being. The more we understand what makes us powerful contributors, the easier it is to find partners and authentic work that is aligned with us.

Only 10 couples will be able to participate in this Creative Assessment process. This is a special event to support couples to engage the Creative Discovery process. This allows us to customize the conversation so people can learn the most in the least amount of time. We will send out presentations and recordings of the event. Videos taken will not show individual participants. It is on a first come, first served basis.

Date: Saturday, September 15th, 2018 5:30-9:00pm Mountain Time
Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandy Jaquith
Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 7 :: Showing Up — Engagement Opportunities

We discovered in Enlightened Dating that individuals either overdo or underdo their capacity to engage others appropriately. We overdo and exhaust potential partners when we cannot relax or connect to our bodies and ourselves. This overdoing can be the result of being rejected in the past or being abandoned. We need to address these issues so we can show up naturally. We underdo and hide out when we do not respond to the overtures of others. This underdoing is the result of having hollowed-out relationships where introspection and self-revelation are denied and condition us. When we cannot be present with our Feelings (and connected to our Sensations) or Emotions (connected to our Thoughts and Truth), overdoing and underdoing deregulate the relationship pace. Sometimes the underdoer’s are attraction to the overdoer’s and vice versa. This creates a subtle sense of competition and self-scoring that sabotages relationship connections.

The more we fall into fixed dating styles or Pretenses, the more our Expectations get challenged. The problem is that we do not investigate the quality of our connection, because the pacing of it is erratic and out of sync with our natural flow. What we need to learn is how to hold space in a separate relationship space independent of our personal space. This keeps us from merging or getting irritated when our partner does not respond to us. Showing up also requires being curious about what our partners are sharing. Any judgments or attitudes will minimize our engagement and understanding. These judgments may also create reactions where we fall into the trap of trying to fix our partners. This is an ugly pleasure (schadenfreude) because it gives us the sense we are contributing; yet in reality, we are not. Pretenses are all attempts to convince others we can help them, when in fact, we only do so when we need to.

Until we can be present to ourselves, it is hard to include others in an open and undefined space. This is what a Common Neutral Ground offers. By showing up and being attentive, we maximize our ability to ask questions and put together a picture of what is possible together. We need to be careful to not make snap judgments. If we are investing in learning about our partners, they will respond by providing complete answers that allow us to build trust in the relationship. By providing more information about us, they can learn who we really are. This can be extremely useful, even if they do not turn out to be the partners we are ultimately seeking. When they know us, we may be able to enroll them in sending people our way that could be a match. Our goal in showing up is to make ourselves better known so the Universe can find and send us the right people.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, August 25th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 8 :: Building Relationship Skills

There are four primary relationship Skills that are critical to long-term relationships. They are Growth, Autonomy, Intimacy and Co-Creativity. Co-Creativity is only possible when we have developed the previous three. In fact, the sequence is one where each step requires the previous to be embodied. This means to develop Autonomy we have to choose our growth. To have Intimacy, we need to take risks and be vulnerable, which means knowing who we are. Co-Creativity itself requires the interaction of Life, Light and Love energies that we often simply into Aliveness, Wisdom and Awareness. There are many problems that arise when we cannot engage others due to a lack of partner skills. For example, if our partner cannot tell us their Truth, their lack of Autonomy minimizes our ability to be intimate with them, making Co-Creativity impossible.

Conditional forms of love minimize our relationship skills. Protective Love is the main reason why people withhold their truth. Directive Love eliminates any true intimacy. Quid Pro Quo Love creates a false sense of equality, which compromises any attempts at creativity. When we build relationship skills it is because we have aligned Motives and can trust our partners. Many attempts at trying to fix relationships are actually destructive. Therefore, it is critical for partners to have an understanding of how they can grow and develop together. Until we can establish this trust we will not operate as a team with a larger central purpose. This is why we need to prepare by organizing ourselves in terms of something larger than us, something our partner(s) can count on us to be committed to.

What is the focus and availability of the partners we are considering? How have they organized themselves to make a difference in the world? Who are their friends and business associates? Are their constituents yours too? If there is a common Skills, Attractions and Motives base, our friends will be their friends and we can mix the two. If our friends cannot work together, it indicates differences that outshine their similarities. The more similarities we have with our partners, the easier it is to be Transpersonal with them. It is also easier for our friends to partner with their friends. This reveals a common support system that dramatically increases the likelihood of a long-term partnership.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, September 8th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 9 :: Discovering What Works

As we explore each relationship we learn to validate our preferences so we understand what irritates us and what works for us. Starting with the premise of our Creative Nature, we are naturally attracted to individuals who are similar. Since we have grown up in compromised relationships, we frequently become enamored by the idea of overcoming differences as a way to prove ourselves to our partners. This approach minimizes our creative flow and maximizes our separateness. Making conscious choices about relationships requires experiencing both sides of the spectrum, from many commonalities to many differences. Some individuals prefer a mixture of the two, because it keeps them alert. The real question is, what resources do I have to deal with these patterns over time?

When a new person shows up and they remind us of a positive association, how will this association fare over time? Few of us have answers for these questions. It takes experimenting with two or three conscious relationships before we know what works for us. Otherwise, we fall into unconscious parental, opposition or power frameworks of choice. Since we suggest that you use two major Compatibility Factors (Primary Creative Expression and our Defense style) as the starting points for sorting out our best partner opportunities, we still need to validate other options to make sure they are viable choices. We recommend avoiding Co-Dependent or oppositional choices. We suggest that certain parental imprints will become irritating over time.

The real impact of these issues is determined by how we hold them in ourselves. Some differences take a lot of energy to manage, while others may not. In this course, we will talk about the benefits of common Pacing, Communication Process and Decision Making Approach. Sometimes, finding a partner with a similar parental pattern means we understand them better than our own pattern. It takes experimentation and observation to make these choices conscious. We believe it is likely that you will have a better sense of this balance within seven months. The problem is that we do not speak our Truth about the impact of our differences, believing they will magically go away. This is a mistake! The cost of this path is we get in relationships that last two years or less. Our recommendation is to speak openly about your differences and accept personal responsibility that it is only our reaction, not our partner’s, that is the cause. Our partners are not doing it ‘to us,’ because we are responsible for our internal response. If we cannot change this response, we need to recognize it as our issue. Our objective needs to be to accept our partner completely as they are.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, September 22nd 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 10 :: Utilizing Common Lessons

When we have common Motives and Skills, our life lessons become more obvious. This can become a major opportunity to accelerate our mutual development, because being with a partner who sees us fully reminds us of our gifts and grace. Business or romantic partners also help us to make the connection between personal endeavors and partnership explorations. Having a work-life balance is critical to maintaining our sense of self. Without Personal Autonomy, we would not be able to take risks in service of larger possibilities. While relationships can be highly stimulating, we also need to respect our personal pacing. Like breathing, there are cycles of inspiration and exhalation, where individuals learn to take time for themselves so they have insights to bring back to the relationship.

One final way we validate a great relationship is our ability to relax together. While many idealize and do infantile behaviors as a way of justifying relaxation, it is Stillness, Silence and Solitude, separately and together, that makes relaxation a goal in itself. The goal, of course, is regeneration. Without regeneration, cyclic behaviors would have no purpose. It is also how we can clear out imbalances in our experiential modalities of Sensations, Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts. Whenever we become attached, positional or overwhelmed on any of the four levels, it creates blockages where we act out through Objectification, Subjectification and Idealization patterns. the result is that we cannot be present to each other because we have distanced ourselves from our partners. When these patterns become a defensive protection system, our separativeness is complete. We are no longer available to each other or anyone else.

Understanding how our partners respond to life, and what we can do to benefit them, requires self reflection. We need to be able to separate our own experience from theirs so we can see how to best support them. We need to learn to not try to fix our partners, but instead be responsive, playful and even paradoxical in our interactions. Self-understanding is the best way to reach others in their own pain. The more we can be empathic, without losing ourselves, the more compassion we will demonstrate. It is also critical not to push or attempt to process our partners so they fix themselves. They need to have their own motivation and desire to engage, or nothing will move or grow. In this class, we will cover the Twelve Lessons of Growth in relationships. When we find alignment in our lessons and how we interact together in service of these lessons, we have found a great partner!

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, October 13th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 11 :: Revealing What Is Important

Being real is the way conscious individuals attract attention. The more we are comfortable expressing both the good and the bad, the more our partners will come to trust us. One of the common mistakes people make is not telling the whole story or misrepresenting a circumstance, then having it emerge in an unplanned way. Another mistake is to amplify our image by trying to impress others. This comes off as insincere, then later becomes a repulsion when it become publicly known as untrue. The Truth needs no embellishment. Anyone who believes it does is operating unconsciously in their personality programming. Since we are looking for conscious individuals who would automatically suspect flattery as a seduction program, they would know that embellishments are a problem. In fact, for these people, they are major warning signs.

Participation and engagement are what distinguish conscious individuals from unconscious ones. Conscious individuals have many different ways to successfully engage others. They do not give up or lack enthusiasm in exploring options. Unconscious people give up quickly and have less willingness to place themselves in any open or intimate environment. Conscious individuals know how to ask questions and their curiosity drives them to try and understand why things are the way they are. Conscious individuals promote self-ownership and the revelation of who people are. They love respecting the mystery and esteeming the mastery of the people with whom they come in contact. They are unselfish and open to seeing things from others’ perspectives. What distinguishes them is there ability to invest and be with people as they are.

What is different about conscious people is their willingness to listen to people’s stories without taking them seriously. Stories do not make a person; experience does. Most people edit their experiences so what they tell you is only partially true. As conscious individuals, we need to frame our own Truth in a way that attracts the right people to us. This means expanding and rewriting our stories so we are no longer at their effect. This means they need to be more transpersonally uplifted. In this class, we explore how to say who we are without relying on previous stories. Let us learn to focus on Compatibility Factors, Motives and relationship Lessons as our initial connection opportunities. This will provide the key indicators of whether or not we invest further time in someone.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, October 27th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)

Finding Conscious & Complete Partners—Class 12 :: Optimizing Online Dating Services

There are many obstacles to using online dating services. People’s profiles can be fishing expeditions by married individuals looking for a hookup. Their pictures may be 20 years old, if we are lucky. The very medium of interacting through a computer tends to attract more Distant or disengaged people. Finally, there are the many misguided attempts to determine compatibility through a series of questions. Despite these obstacles, online dating provides a focused group of individuals who believe they are capable of attracting a partner. Higher Alignment’s assessment tools provide a way to cut through these obstacles to identify the top candidates in your locale. This requires good pictures and simple qualification statements (such as, are they non-smokers?), and some sort of background check.

While it is more difficult to use online dating services (for all the above reasons), there are also opportunities to practice and explore possibilities with people who may be more similar to you. It requires preparing a profile, selecting photos, answering a lot of questions and being willing to monitor the process on a regular basis. Some people find this to be too tedious. For them, we need to work on putting them in places (locations, groups, activities, etc.) where they would most likely meet the people who are similar to them. These individuals will need more ability to see compatibility differences. They will also want to use their network of friends for people who might match the qualities they seek. This is why, upon reflection, some of the dating sites are a bit more effective than others. What Higher Alignment can do is go through the pictures of your choosing and point out the people who are your Primary Creative Expression, could be sexually compatible and who are defensively similar. Individuals, such as Larry, can search through and assess up to 800 pictures per hour. In these situations, we usually find 10 or more suitable matches. This still requires people to follow up these individuals and inspire them to respond.

The benefit of online dating is that our preferences can be taken into account. This means we can sort people by age, if they smoke, their marital status, social activities and even athletic interests (if any). Since there are at least 60 million individuals on dating sites at any given time, there are many opportunities for connection. This allows a greater degree of targeting that can lead to finding appropriate partners. Higher Alignment sees this process as a way to practice showing up an being ourselves. It encourages us to be confident and to not compromise ourselves. It focuses us on the larger picture so we can learn how a person might work with us, even if they do not look like they would fit our preconceived notions. We still stand by the concept that it is us taking ownership of our creativity that makes us visible and attractive to the best partner candidates. It is time to be the driving energy behind what will fulfill us.

Facilitators: Larry Byram & Sandra Jaquith

Class Schedule: Saturday, November 10th 2018, 12pm-5pm MT (no lunch break)

Location: 2945 Center Green Court, Ste. E, Boulder, CO 80301 (or by webinar)