FREE INTRO TO CHOOSING ALIGNED PARTNERS – Ending A Relationship? Healing With Aligned Friends & Partners
Choosing The Best People
Why do we choose the wrong people and then feel surprised at the results? It is usually a reflection of the degree of intensity and anxiety in our family of origin. Familiarity might initially seem attractive, but when it is oppositional or plays to edgy expressions that hurt our esteem or respect, it crosses the line. Many of us are creatively repressed which amplifies and re-directs us to measure the relationship quality by how much attention, acknowledgment, and acceptance our partners provide. Without clear self-manifested boundaries that account for our life energy, a capacity to reflect and respond with wisdom, and the spontaneity of creative responsiveness, we do not know the experience of true quality relationships.
If we are to attract quality friends and partners, we need to know who we are as creative beings. This means affirming our nature by consciously expressing ourselves in ways that we love. These ways of loving ourselves we call Compatibility Factors. They are patterns of behavior that honor who we are and what we seek to contribute. Every person has their own contribution and we become more conscious and self-loving when we interact with those who have the same patterns and desires. There are six out of 15 factors that bring out the best in us. This is because they assist us in aligning with our purpose.
Healing ourselves after a relationship breakup requires rebuilding our sense of Self. When we have been in relationships where we have had to compromise ourselves, we have unconsciously taken on the views of others and overridden our experience to fit in and be accepted. Our personal desire to be with others represents incomplete parental patterns, proving our power through opposition, or fanciful ideals and common dreams, cause us to engage in challenging relationships. By recognizing that these unconscious attractions are counterproductive, we can begin to heal. We can then see how much effort and pain come from co-dependent patterns. This begins our search for friends and partners that do not compromise us.
Higher Alignment Compatibility Factors are ways to affirm our true nature. Honoring our choice to express ourselves how we wish, keeps us from defining ourselves in terms of others. Using our Autonomy, we become consciously able to interact pleasurably, powerfully, and with passion. Each Compatibility Factor frees a dimension of our interactions with others, making our learning an empowerment process. Without doing this, we amplify fighting and attempt to change others. The more we recognize our similarities with others the stronger our Co-Creative interactions become. The Creative Uniqueness class is the doorway to healing our authentic being. Consider signing up for this self-paced class on Thinkific. Or you can use these tools to build support groups and immediately engage Choosing Aligned Partners.
Healing Idealization - Idealization Sabotages Our Dreams is a 12-week Zoom series on Tuesdays at 6:00 p.m. MST, from May 16 through August 8, 2023.
Join us on Zoom on Thursday, June 15th, 2023 from 6- 8 pm for our first FREE INTRO to Choosing Aligned Partners. Our Free Intro topic is “Ending A Relationship? Healing With Aligned Friends & Partners”.