Choosing Aligned Partners
Reflecting On What Has Worked And Not
Have you ever been in a relationship that seemed pre-destined because everything felt familiar? Are you tired of meeting a potential partner who is “so amazing” and feels like everything you’ve been waiting for, only to be disappointed months later as you discover who he/she really is? Are you done with making the same choices that do not change the outcome? These types of relationships become more common as we get older, even as we begin to understand that they do not work out the way we hoped. This is due to our attempts to choose partners that would avoid compromises we have made in past relationships— only to find ourselves in the same situations again and again.
We are not only instinctively attracted to the worst partners, but we also cannot even recognize when others have the same desires as us. Instead, we unconsciously seek to create images, values, and ideals that bring agreement, a false form of alignment. Why do many relationships not work? Because they depend upon repressive self-identifications that create intensity and anxiety. When we shift from personality-based attractions to synergistic creative combinations, these issues die out. Higher Alignment has real answers about creative differences that would, combined with some changes in perspective, transform your life. The first thing to recognize is that we all have a creative design that guides our development in a particular way. Who we are can be creatively verified by how we love, lead, and seek understanding in seven different ways. What is in our way? A lack of creative bonding and a shared mission. Creative bonding occurs only when we are completely seen, heard, and accepted. Conscious relationships require recognizing who a person is beneath their parental imprinting, excitement, intensity, and anxiety. We need the ability to see and reflect on our true nature. Then, can we creatively affirm who we are as a relationship.
The goal of conscious, co-creative choices is to find potential partners who can align and be creatively responsive to us. Otherwise, we are just choosing people based on co-dependent defensiveness. This means we are stuck in past incomplete parental, defensive, and romantic patterns. What we want are those individuals with whom we experience the greatest aliveness, wisdom, and awareness. In Higher Alignment, we call this creative flow. What would it be like if our relationships were frictionless and without conflict? This is a real possibility if we are willing to follow Higher Alignment’s guidelines. This will require thinking about yourself and how you operate so you can begin to identify these patterns in others.
Instead of pursuing the most difficult partners and trying to convince them that we are their soul mates, we choose to invite potential partners to explore mutual outcomes and desires. This calls on us to know who we are and how we can use conscious vs. unconscious co-dependent attractions to become co-creative. Higher Alignment encourages us to balance and connect to others on four primary levels: Sensations, Feelings, Emotions, and Thoughts. It is communication-fluidity on these levels, combined with common creative expressions that define our degree of natural alignment and compatibility. Join us in this exploration of what makes us successful in relationships!
Choosing Aligned Partners is a 6-week Zoom series on Thursdays at 6:00 p.m. MDT, from June 29 through August 3, 2023. Contact Sandy at email@example.com for financial assistance information.
Join us on Thursday June 15 at 6:00 p.m. MDT for our first FREE INTRO “Ending A Relationship?” And then join us on Thursday June 22 fat 6 pm MDT or our second FREE INTRO “Choosing Creative Over Co-Dependent Partners”. We will send a Zoom link just before the Free Intro classes to all registrants.