***** Shaping Our Attractions ***** Tuesdays 2/6 - 4/23 @ 6 pm MT

Shaping Our Attractions

How Attractions Define Relationship Choices

Attractions of all sorts define the lessons we engage. This means how we respond or react to attractions can make our experiences worthwhile or create opposition in everyone we meet. Reactions indicate we are seeking to be human beings and are still falling into instinctive patterns of acquisition. Consciously choosing our attractions allows us to shape our lives in ways that contribute to the greater good. This reflects that we have accepted our creative purpose and wish to share from a place of mutual respect, esteem, and love. Conscious Attraction individuals can defer short-term benefits for long-term inner success and well-being, not just of ourselves, but with equal partners. We invite everyone to consider how Conscious Attraction choices can positively impact the course of our lives.

When we see how many of our Attractions to physical attributes represent the feelings of safety without the reality of safety, we start to question our instinctive attraction programming where we choose familiar individuals who reflect parental patterns. When we seek partners who represent qualities that should make us secure, and yet realize they do not, we can then see the limits of our defensive chemistry where we seek out our opposites. Opposite attraction partners result in constant competition and fighting. When we realize that our ideals distance us from what we want, it is time to break out of our prevailing beliefs and examine attractions from an “internal, top-down” creative perspective. Eventually, we need to ask ourselves whether our external, co-dependent attractions (Excitement, Intensity, and Anxiety) are working for or against us. Yes, they facilitate falling in love on various levels. But this is a complementary reaction, not a choice. The problem is they are based on personality perceptions that will change over the course of our lives, which generate high divorce rates.

Personality attractions inhibit our change, growth, and striving to be better. When we define ourselves as separate and independent we set ourselves up to need others to complete us. Our drive to be attractive, successful, and superior pushes us to select, possess, and control partners we can use to prove ourselves better than any alternatives. Doubting ourselves, we seek security in partners who most need us and will not leave us behind if things do not turn out as we imagined. We can validate this by the degree our partners establish our safety, security, or self-importance. We need to be autonomous and not be seduced into our relationships. Whenever we “fall in love,” it means we are at the effect of our Attractions, which indicates we are choosing co-dependence and compromise.

Our unconscious attraction to fantasy excitement attracts partners who act as parental substitutes. We attempt to heal parental wounding through superficial sexual merging. Our desire for opposite Compatibility Factor individuals is all a false attempt at security. By attracting opposites, we learn to be independent and separate, reinforcing defensiveness and separation. Finally, our desire for individuals who match our ideals leads to enmeshed, confusing relationships. The problem of unconscious relationships is that they represent our struggle to accept our disowned creativity. When we are conscious about Attractions we seek partners who are more playful, enthusiastic, confident, and self-generating. In this way, Conscious Attractions of Autonomous Aliveness, Intimate Vulnerability, and Co-Creative Responsiveness become mutual opportunities for common lessons with our partners.

This course allows us to see where we are and acknowledge what is authentic. It is an “inside-out” experiential process that addresses the three judgments that keep us stuck in unconscious external Attractions. Creative similarities, when identified, are a much better guide to relationship choices. We call this “top-down, inside-out” healing. It requires us to realign our relationship to life, light and love. Since we see and love ourselves, it is easier to see the same with others. In this way, we rediscover the Beauty, Truth, and Goodness within our Self. The value of becoming conscious of these Attractions is that it opens new ways of being, interacting, and enjoying our relationships. Uplifting our Attractions creates greater Self Presence, Confidence, and Clarity about the natural long-term Attraction-opportunities in any relationship. It also teaches us that Attractions are not fixed but incredibly programmable and, therefore, can be great tools in helping us choose partners who would be great with us. The key issue is whether we are willing to make this a conscious process and choice.

All classes are offered online. Classes will also be recorded so that you can download mp3s, and slides for each class, and are provided to all class participants.

1. Instinctive Body Engagement
2. Sexy & Smart Attachments
3. Reliability, Sustainability & Cellular Affinity
4. Truth Stimulus; Wisdom & Intensity
5. Innocence and Strength Positions
6. Personal Independence and Vibratory Response
7. Creative Self-Acceptance & Personality Self-Rejection
8. Personal Intimacy; Awareness vs. Anxiety
9. Validation, Projections, & Vibratory Expansion
10. Autonomous Aliveness
11. Intimate Vulnerability
12. Co-Creative Responsiveness